Introduce yourself! Who are you? What should we call you?
Hello, Hola and Takaji! I’m Ignacio Rivera aka Papí Coxxx. You can call me Ignacio, IG or Papí. I was conceived on the island of Boriken (aka Puerto Rico) and raised in the “melting pot” of Brooklyn, New York–currently living in Baltimore, Maryland. I identify as a Black Boricua Taíno. In addition to English, I speak Spanish (sometimes Spanglish), small amount of the Taíno language (still learning), and some sign language. I’m 40-something. I’m a pensive person, sometimes to a fault. I’m a libra always struggling to balance the scales. I’d like to think I’m a compassionate person, a community oriented person, a mentor, a friend and a person who likes the simple things. I struggle with anxiety disorder and PTSD. I’m a survivor. I’m sober and I’m spiritual. I’m also known for a variety of other things. I’m an activist, writer, filmmaker, educator, sex(uality) liberationist, sex worker, performance artist and mother.
I really love this feeling at this time
In this space
Not tomorrow or 5 years from now
Thursday will be a new day
Linger-ments of Wednesday
but not necessarily
THIS Thursday is created new
Nothing is constant
Nor do I want it to be
Nothing is a sure thing
and I am elated for that
Friday we may be different
And not want the same things
I so hope so
Terror and utter bliss
Above is a free-write I did some time ago. I found it while rustling through the many napkins, backs of receipts, edges of brown paper bags torn to lay pen to capture a lighting thought before sound hit and it was gone for good. I read somewhere that if you’re having difficulty moving forward with a project; in this case writing, one should work on something unrelated. So, there I was, on the floor thumbing through folders of word memories. I came across a dated sheet of paper the size of an index card adorned with scribbles, chicken-scratch and yet a new idea that navigated me back to my writing. Although this piece was about something altogether different, multiple ideas resinated for me. This resurrected idea comes full circle with former contemplations about negotiation, sex and love.
"I think the act of carrying something that is normally found in our bedroom out into the light is supposed to mirror the way I’ve talked to the media and talked to different news channels, etc," Emma continues in the full video which you can watch here.
So, I just want to go into HOW MUCH Columbia and the NYPD has failed, and revictimized, Emma Sulkowicz.
In her school hearing, Sulkowicz had to explain to the three administrators on the panel how anal rape worked. She told them she had been hit across the face, choked and pinned down, but, she said, one still seemed confused about how it was possible for someone to penetrate her there without lubricant. Sulkowicz said she had to draw them a diagram.”
"Her best friend was meant to be at the hearing; Sulkowicz had chosen her as her one “supporter.” But her friend was kicked out of that role for talking about the case, according to Sulkowicz, in violation of the university’s confidentiality policy. As punishment, her friend was also put on probation and made to write two reflection papers: one from the perspective of Sulkowicz and another from the accused."
FROM THE PERSPECTIVE
OF HER FRIEND’S RAPIST
- Two other women at Columbia have accused this guy of sexual assault/rape. But he’s been found not responsible in all instances, and is still on campus.
- When she went to the police, one officer said: “You invited him into your room. That’s not the legal definition of rape.”
- Another officer told her friends, who came with her: ““For every single rape I’ve had, I’ve had 20 that are total bull——,” he added. “It’s also my type of job to get to the truth. If that means being harsh about it, that’s what I do.”
I want to set literally everything on fire.
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